Traditionally wedding invitations have required two envelopes – an inner envelope that contains the actual invitations and inserts and an outer envelope to hold the inner envelope. While many brides continue to follow this rule, it is perfectly acceptable to omit the inner envelope.

Inner Envelope

The inner envelope only bears the names of the guests. No address is necessary. The inner envelopes should be addressed as follows:

Married Couple

Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

Unmarried Woman and Guest

Miss Elizabeth Smith and Guest

Unmarried Gentleman and Guest

Mr. John Smith, Jr. and Guest

Engaged Couple

Miss Elizabeth Smith and Mr. John Doe

Unmarried Couple who lives together

Ms. Elizabeth Smith and Mr. John Doe

Several Young Children

Elizabeth, John and Suzy

Parents and a Young Child

Mr. & Mrs. John Smith
Miss Elizabeth Smith

Close Relatives

Aunt Elizabeth and Uncle John

Outer Envelope

No abbreviations are made on outer envelopes. Words naming roads such as Street and the names of states must be written out.

Wedding invitations are always addressed to both members of a married couple. Invitations to an unmarried couple should be addressed to Mr. John Doe and Ms. Elizabeth Smith.

Any child over the age of 13 should receive a separate invitation according to Emily Post. I’m not sure how practical that is. I think that any child over the age of 18 should receive a separate invitation and anyone younger can be included on the parents’ invitation.

If you are allowing single guests to bring dates, the proper thing to do is to simply write your friend’s name on the outer invitation and add the …and Guest part to the inner envelope.

With so many unmarried couples living together nowadays, you may be confused as to how you should address the envelope. The proper thing to do is to address it to both of them even if you are really only friends with on of them.

Return Address

You need to include a return address on your wedding invitation. For one thing it allows the guest to know where to send the wedding gift. In addition, it lets the postal service know where to return it if it is undeliverable for some reason.

The return address is usually printed on the back flap of the envelope.

Stuffing the Envelopes

The invitation and additional inserts should be placed in the inner envelope with the invitation facing the back of the inner envelope so that it is the first thing the guest sees when opening the inner envelope. The front of the inner envelope should face the back of the outer envelope so that the guest will see their names on the front of the inner envelope when opening the outer envelope.



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